Monday Thirst Quenchers – Post 01.01

What I have gleaned in my learnings

Why Recognition Matters

This is a great interview on the importance of recognition in the workplace.  What I was impressed with is the smallest of details that are important, such as numbered recognition awards and photographs plastering every wall in Mr. Novak’s office, including the ceiling!  What is your rubber chicken award?

5 Leadership Questions – Russell Moore

The things I’m the most worried about when it comes to ethical and moral issues are ones most people are not thinking about

This podcast has really made me ponder about some of the morality and ethics in the technology field I am in.

Design Matters – Anil Dash

This podcast has real meat to it, from racial discussions, political commentary, technology, and much more.

Enjoy!

 

 

 

Setting Boundaries as Leaders and Employees

Boundary setting for the castle

Do you know a leader who says yes to everything?  Their team just finished a significant and stressful month to get an “urgent” marketing experience out the door and the leader agreed to deliver something else urgent on a compressed timeline.  Where was the boundary between the finish and start of the next project.  It never materialized.  Take a more concrete example.  Do you ever block time off on your calendar to get work done and people just schedule right over that without any care or thought?  Is it ok to get a meeting scheduled for the same day? As leaders, we have a responsibility to set boundaries to protect our team and as employees we have a responsibility to protect ourselves.

Convicted to Give More of Yourself

Today has been erratic, my heart was not at ease, and my behaviors and thoughts with each interaction have not been grace and mercy, but rather frustration and contempt.  That all changed when I saw a post in a Christian group in Yammer.  It was nothing grandiose, just asking to consider donating to a young woman’s fight to go back to school in the fall.  I see many requests like this all the time.  There is always some cause, the pursuit of something greater, or even just a random kind act popping up on your radar frequently.  But today I was convicted to help and here is why:

  • The cups of coffee I have in the morning can pay for my donation.
  • This group of 50+ individuals can probably all afford a small donation, why not start the ball rolling.
  • I needed to change my mental state for the day.
  • 5 minutes is all it took to invest in a future

Is there someone you don’t even know you can invest in.  It  doesn’t have to be money, it can be:

  • Time.  Find a way to give a person more time, they will be blessed by that in the end.
  • Knowledge.  Be a mentor.  Share your experiences
  • Attitude.  This can go a long ways to giving hope, charity, and grace to others.

 

What are the Treasures You Value

It is a pretty true statement of what your treasures are, so you heart and mind are. I am personally not one to have lavish goods, however, there are days when I wish for them to be like others, to entertain for selfish reasons, or to just show that I made it. These are all selfish interests.

My Personal Treasures

  • Family. I consider my family a treasure that the Lord has given to me which is precious and that I want to care for diligently. My family is growing up, my children are becoming independent.  I cherish walks with my wife.  I couldn’t have said that 10 years ago.  This is because I am investing in the relationship, and seeing the fruits of that investment.
  • Knowledge and learning are other treasures as long as I can give them away.  What good does it do me if I learn but don’t share.  I am now starting to see mentoring opportunities everywhere.  Solomon, the wisest man, became that way because he asked for it.
  • Doing for others just to see a smile, a hint of gratitude, or smidge of happiness. The more I live by example in humility, letting God be in control, and letting go, the more I will let His light shine for others to find the way. These are the riches on earth that everyone can get a hold of.

We only have so many days allotted to us. I don’t know when that number starts to take a serious meaning, it is different for everyone. Our mortality in this life is a reminder that we need to spend each day focused on eternity and the gift of love and life that Jesus has bestowed on each of us.

Being Mindful In Everything You Do

Take a moment before you react

The apostle Paul couldn’t have said it better:

 

Php 2:3-5  Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.  (4)  Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.  (5)  Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus

I am convinced that my interactions every day could use some TLC when it comes to thinking about others.  Try as I might, I struggle to place others in front of me.  When I do achieve that feat great things happen, relationships are built, and trust is gained.   When I catch myself being more self-centered instead of others focused I do the following:

Mindful Breaks

Many times, work becomes overwhelming.  The computer is no longer my friend and staring at the screen at the inflammatory email I am about to send is way overboard.  I get up from my desk and take a walk around the halls.  I may just close my eyes for five minutes.  I may focus on a task that is totally unrelated to the one I am engrossed in. All of these help me to refocus and realign my thinking.

Being Present With Others

I am in a lot of meetings.  It is hard for me to be present each and every time I am around people where I “feel” there may be a lack of competency or disengagement to the process.  One of the core questions I have started asking myself when someone speaks is “What can I learn from them?”.  This helps me grow, stay focused, and even engage fully.  I don’t bring my laptop to the meeting and try to only take notes when the meeting is virtual.  It is so easy to tune out otherwise.  Lastly, but most importantly, I am becoming more aware of how much I speak versus others.  I am starting to eliminate my speaking in exchange for others.  Awkward silence has become ok for me in meetings as I know everyone processes differently.

Asking Myself The Smart Questions

Andy Stanley has identified amazing questions we should ask ourselves before we make decisions.

  • What is the wise thing to do?
  • What would a great leader (replace leader with the person relevant) do?

If I truly take the time to be mindful on these questions before making decisions, I am blessed by the outcome.

 

 

How is your impact rubbing off?

How do I rub off on others?  I had to really think about this question after listening to the EntreLeadership podcast featuring Dr. Jackie Freiberg on being a Person of Impact.  In the podcast, three ways were mentioned on how our impact rubs off on others, Positively, Negatively, or Inconsistently.  What is great about the definition of impact that Jackie gave, was that everyone has impact and we can choose how it lands with others.  Of course, we all want positive impact, but we also need to be realistic to know that we can exude negative and inconsistent results as well.  In transparency, I can tell you there is a lot of room for improvement for my impact.  Hopefully you can glean some insight from my reflections in each category:

Stop making labels

Unless you are an owner, manufacturer, or purchaser

How we create labels every day:

  • That marketer will never understand software development
  • That developer doesn’t do strategy
  • He doesn’t talk in meetings.  It is just his introvert nature.
  • Her skills assessment shows she has a temper.

I was very convicted when I was listening to this podcast yesterday.  I realize that I label people all the time, not intentionally, but I do it just the same.   The key that I got out of the message was that every time we place a label on someone, we restrict their ability to contribute and maximize their potential.  My exercise today is to figure out what labels I am applying.  Consciously I am going to write these down and see where I could change my communication style to open up and contribute to potential maximization.

Where labels come from

I also took the opportunity to figure out the labels others have given me.  This inventory is helping me to see where I am stifling opportunity because of the label. Here are some of the places I reflected on:

  • My family and children give me labels
    • One of those is a hard worker.  I need to be careful that label is not the primary way I am viewed.  I have used this label as a crutch in the past.
    • Sacrificial – Again while this can be good for most of the time, I shouldn’t use it as a badge of honor
  • My coworkers have provided me labels, some good, some not so good.
    • Competency minded – Several times I have had colleagues evaluate my interactions and this was a recurring theme.  I will need to be aware that competency is only one trait
    • Single Point of Failure – This is such an unnerving label.  I constantly strive to share because of this.
  • Labels I give myself
    • Unorganized – I am always trying to increase my productivity and make sure that I have all the answers beforehand.  Sometimes I spend too much energy
    • Servant Leadership – I need to make sure that I don’t mask unhealthy behaviors such as pride behind this.

How labels restrict opportunity

  • Labels provide specificity that may be unwarranted.  If someone labels you as a marketer for instance, they may only consult you when it is a marketing question.  However, your experiential skills may provide unique insights.
  • Labels are defined by the person labeling you.  People utilize labels as just a quick way to categorize according to their needs.  Again, be aware that you can label yourself and just fall into the categories.
  • Labels create bias.  For instance, we see this in politics.  Most people are not just Democrat or Republican, however, they restrict their thinking by making compromises they fundamentally don’t believe in just because of choosing a “label” party platform.

What labels do you use or see.

Additional Resources

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Taking the first steps

What to do when starting projects are difficult

I have found it extremely difficult to get started on projects that I think are daunting.  It gets even worse when I don’t know where to start.  My mind feels sluggish, my hands refuse to move, I become paralyzed to action.

Then there are the easy start projects.

Simplify: A Ten Day Recap

Simplify

To make something easier to do or to understand.

For the last 10 days I have been doing a study on Simplify. The intro starts out with Overscheduled, Exhausted, Overwhelmed? Sound Familiar? At that point, I just knew I had to dig in and see what insights I could gleam off of the study. As each day progressed, I shared my notes with my wife, who in turn shared her wisdom about the study also. Here are some of the highlights I took away.