Mistake – We All Make One or Two

But do we learn from them

An over exposed truck when I was just starting out in photography. Even mistakes can look good
I remember the T-Shirt I got on a family vacation.  You know the ones back in the 80’s, glitter and rainbow decals. These famous words were transcribed on front:

I thought I made a mistake once, but I was wrong.

Over the years, I used this saying whenever I did make a mistake as a way to brush it off.  It was my way of reconciling with incorrectness on my part.  We all make mistakes, how we handle them makes all the difference.  Here are ways I believe great leaders handle mistakes:

Future – Leaders Prepare For The Unknown

One universal truth, no one knows what the future will be.  The brother of Jesus sums it up best (James 4:13-15):

Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.”

This does not mean that we should just sit around idly by and let the future pass us by.  Great leaders recognize that our days our numbered and that the work they have to do is great.  For the future, they commit to a plan, a goal, or a vision.

Clarity to plan

The bible is filled with many verses directing us on how to plan for the future, even if we don’t know it yet.  Leadership will do well to plan and execute in the midst of uncertainty.

  • Proverbs 16:3 – Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.
  • Proverbs 6:6-8 – Go to the ant, O sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise. Without having any chief, officer, or ruler, she prepares her bread in summer and gathers her food in harvest.
  • Isaiah 32:8 – But he who is noble plans noble things, and on noble things he stands.

Seeking wise council

The future is out in front.  It is up to leaders to make great decisions to move people and generations toward it.

  • Proverbs 11:14 – Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.
  • Proverbs 15:22 – Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.
  • Psalm 90:12 – So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.

I don’t know what the future holds for me tomorrow.  However, I will listen to our Lord and put in place plans with good council.  Finally, I will execute those plans with God in control.

 

 

Shallow – You Know There is a Deep End

I am convicted as I write about being shallow.  There are so many areas of my life, where skimming the surface wading into the issue ankle deep is comfortable.  My contributions in work suffer from superficial dedication to solving the problem.  I pretend to listen deeply, but treat all the words as white noise on the outer edge, while getting my thoughts ready for the next rebuttal.  I use shallowness to play ignorant or feign a lack of expertise about subjects.  My roots aren’t firm and my convictions blow away at the slightest turmoil.

Fulfillment – Leaders Complete Work

I have now been working about 6 hours today.  I wish I could say it is for enjoyment, but rather I am trying to fulfill a work commitment.  Sometimes it takes extra effort, persevering through frustration, or just time to complete.  Fulfillment is that finality of completion, the realization of a achieving a goal, or getting to the end.  Leaders take fulfillment very seriously, both for themselves and their subordinates.  In order to complete work, here are two key leadership behaviors:

Amaze

The dictionary shows the following synonyms for amaze:

Astonish, astound, surprise, stun, stupefy, awe.

But beware of the trap.  People are often amazed by the superficial, the crowd favorite, the unique, or obscure.  We miss out on the truly amazing that many times is mundane, common place, or steady.  Great leaders don’t work to amaze, but rather to take on the tough issues.  There solutions may seem extraordinary, but they are built on blood, sweat, and tears.  Great works are forged through collaboration, and persistence.  Here are some leadership examples which amaze me:

Be Anxious For Nothing

As I am studying great leadership, I find that most have learned how to overcome being anxious.  Their outward appearance is one of a calm demeanor, they have a steady hand, and command with ease the most difficult situations.   Being a former military person, I saw how well officers would make decisions with determination, even though lives may have been at stake. 

Solitude Isn’t About Being Lonely

When you hear the word solitude, what is the picture that pops into your mind? Is it one of calmness, maybe a lake that is perfectly still, or a person cross-legged with their eyes closed and meditating? The word solitude is defined as “a state or situation of being alone.” However, it also infers that you are not lonely in this state.

Valuable Meetings

Meetings. How many of them can be changed, disregarded, and not even attended? Can one spend their time on more valuable work?

Automatically as I was writing this my only focus was on work type meetings, as those seem to be the least edifying and the most wasteful. Meetings can be beneficial:

  • Casual meetings to build relationships
  • Informational meetings to build up knowledge
  • Crisis meetings to solve urgent and hard problems
  • Regular meetings that have outcomes that are action oriented
  • Impromptu meetings that spark ideas

So not all meetings are monsters that feed on time and energy. Just ones that are poorly run.

A Proper Response

Having the right response to others makes collaboration much easier.

  1. Is it constructive or destructive?
  2. Is it positive or negative?
  3. Is it selfish or selfless?
  4. Is it based upon principle and values over compromise for short term gain?

Each interaction has the ability to be a one of a kind unique and edifying experience. Where there is thoughtfulness before the response, the outcome is usually one where both parties gain and not lose. A quick checklist to run down in your mind before answer could be:

  • Am I responding according to principles and values?
  • Am I adding to the conversation or other person?
  • Is my focus on my fellow collaborator(s) instead of self-ego?
  • What are the right words for me to use to deliver positivity?

Uncomfortable

Being uncomfortable gets my Spidey senses going. It is uncanny how I can see problems with much more clarity. The smallest details become chasms that I need to conquer or cross. Now combine being uncomfortable with new surroundings. It is like when Superman first discovers his superpowers of seeing everything blurring by and he can’t take it all in till he focuses.

This is me now, with a new job and different environment. Here are steps I am taking for better clarity that may help you.

  • Slow down. Not everything has to be solved right away.
  • Find those who are comfortable already. Listen to what works for them. Be careful not to assimilate and look for opportunities to add value to their processes.
  • Know the long term vision. Keep referring to it as you are doing day to day work. Remove the work that doesn’t progress toward the vision.
  • Embrace mistakes as valuable lessons.
  • Be bold and courageous in your decision making.

Be comfortable with uncomfortable.